10 Premarital Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Marriage – by Medical Kundali Foundation
1. How do you usually handle conflicts between 2 persons?
Look for:
- Do they shut down or talk it out?
- Are they aggressive, passive, or assertive?
- Do they believe in solving issues or escaping them?
2. What do you do when you’re extremely stressed?
Look for:
- Do they withdraw, lash out, or practice healthy coping (talking, exercising, meditating)?
- Are they aware of their triggers?
- Do they bottle things up?
3. Have you ever experienced depression, anxiety, or emotional burnout?
This is not to judge — but to understand how vulnerable they’re willing to be.
✅ Openness ≠ weakness. It’s the beginning of emotional safety.
4. How was emotional expression handled in your family growing up?
Were they allowed to cry? Were boys told to be strong and girls to stay silent?
Understanding this will help you decode their emotional language and communication style.
5. What’s something you’re still healing from?
Everyone has wounds. Those who are aware and working on them are far more emotionally stable than those in denial.
✅ Bonus: This question builds deep emotional intimacy.
6. How do you respond to criticism or feedback?
In marriage, feedback is constant — about habits, tone, money, sex, health.
Someone who defends or attacks is not yet ready.
Someone who listens, pauses, and responds = emotionally grounded.
7. What does emotional intimacy mean to you?
This uncovers:
- Their understanding of connection
- Their comfort with vulnerability
- Whether they want emotional closeness or just companionship.
8. Have you ever been in therapy or seen a counsellor?
If yes — great. It means they value mental health. If not — do they respect therapy, or do they shame it?
💡 In 2025 India, normalizing therapy is a green flag in relationships.
9. How do you comfort someone when they’re not okay?
You’re going to need this during:
- Pregnancy
- Deaths
- Job loss
- Infertility
- Burnout
- Fights with parents
Their answer will show whether they’re emotionally available or emotionally unavailable.
10. What does a healthy marriage look like to you?
This is your blueprint alignment question.
Listen for words like:
- Communication
- Growth
- Teamwork
- Space
- Respect
If they say “compromise,” “sacrifice,” “obedience,” or “duty” — be cautious. That’s old-school suppression, not modern connection.
What If My Partner Can’t Answer These Questions?
That’s okay.
The point isn’t to interrogate. It’s to start a lifelong conversation — based on emotional truth.
✅ If they’re open, they’re growing.
❌ If they shut down or get angry, it’s a red flag.
How Medical Kundali Foundation Supports Emotional Readiness
- Under Government guidelines Pre-marital emotional screening tools
- Mental wellness checkups + counselling referrals
- Youth workshops on emotional maturity
- Family sessions to break cultural silence
Final Thought: Ask Early. Ask Kindly. Ask Honestly.
“You’re not looking for the perfect person. You’re looking for someone who’s ready to grow — with you, not against you.”
These 10 premarital marriage counselling questions won’t guarantee a perfect marriage. But they can prevent an avoidable disaster. It can be any type of misunderstanding due to miscommunication, some health related issues which are generally not disclosed before marriage.
A small step can result lifelong happiness between two partners “Kiuki saath 2 pal ka nahi, zindali bhar ka hota hai”.
Start the Conversation Today and make your upcoming marriage life a happiest life forever!
[A Note by Medical Kundali Foundation: Spreading awareness about Premarital health compatibility checkup is the initiative by Medical Kundali Foundation to decrease the divorce rates and increase the longtime happiness between couples in India. We are heartily thankful to all of our supports. Our mission is to make zero cases of Thalassemia and other diseases which actually ruin the personal marriage life as well as future generation’s life.]